Good morning , today I want to share some thoughts and reflections on anxiety in relationships. It’s something I’ve been dealing with and thinking a lot about recently, and believe my experiences might resonate with some of you out there.

So, I’ve had the opportunity to date someone I truly admired, but the long-distance nature of our relationship brought about its own set of challenges. While I’ve been working hard to address my lifetime of traumas and become more emotionally aware, I realized that I still struggled with anxiety, particularly in romantic relationships.

One thing I’ve come to understand is the impact of rushed trust-building processes. Sure, having deep conversations and sharing your values and philosophies is important, but real trust takes time and shared experiences. It’s about going through tough times together and seeing each other’s reactions in different situations. Building a secure attachment doesn’t happen overnight, especially for those of us with an anxious attachment style.

I’ve also learned the importance of having a fulfilling personal life outside of the relationship. It’s crucial to have your own aspirations, hobbies, and a solid network of friends. For me, this has been a bit of a challenge after going through a divorce and seeing some of my close friends move away. I’ve come to realize the significance of having a local friend group, especially for men.

And speaking of men, let’s talk about the importance of male friendships. Having a network of guys to hang out with and share common interests is essential for our well-being. So, if you’re struggling to find this, consider getting into a hobby or sport that interests you. It’s not just about meeting women or having a successful relationship; it’s about having a support system of male friends.

In conclusion, navigating anxiety in relationships is a journey, and it’s okay to acknowledge and communicate your needs to your partner. It’s about finding someone who understands and respects your anxious attachment and is willing to provide that extra validation and support. And remember, don’t neglect your personal life and friendships outside of the relationship – they are just as important. So, here’s to understanding ourselves better and building healthier, more fulfilling relationships in the future. Let’s go out there and kick ass in 2024!